Treat your wives kindly

Treat your wives kindly

The Holy Prophet (May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is the perfect example for mankind in every aspect of life. When you study his life you will see how he conducted himself in relation to women. In my good opinion, a man who stands up against a woman has not shown any bravery.

If you study the life of the Holy Prophet (saw) you will find that he was so gracious that, despite his station of dignity, he would stop even for an old woman and would not move on until she permitted him to do so.

A Muslim, especially, should not ever consider women to be contemptible and insignificant! Our perfect master and guide, the Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) (May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) on good treatment of ones partner has said the following:

“Best among you is one who is best to his wife, and I am best among you in my dealings with my wives.”

“Only an honourable man treats women with honour and integrity, and only a vile and dishonourable man humiliates and degrades women.” 

“The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is”

He said, “Oh people, you have rights over your wives, and your wives have rights over you. Remember, you must always treat your wives with kindness. Woman is weak and cannot protect her own rights. When you got married, God appointed you the trustees of those rights. You brought your wives to your homes under the Law of God. You must not, therefore, insult the trust which God has placed in your hands.”

Remember, the Holy Prophet did not just utter those words. Rather, he put whatever he said into practice. 

Women are not to be oppressed in Islam. And any Muslim man that oppresses a woman is not following Islam. That was how the Holy Prophet taught Muslims to respect women.

The Promised Messiah and Reformer of our age (Founder of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community) also portrayed and taught the beautiful teachings of his Holy master about treatment of wives to his followers. 

The Promised Messiah (as) said:

“You should not think that women are something to be taken as very low and of no importance whatsoever. It is not so. Our perfect Guide, the Holy Prophet, sallallaho alaih wa sallam, has said: Khairokum Khairokum li-ahlihee: the best among you is he who is best in dealings with his wife. He who does not treat his wife nicely, cannot be called a righteous person.

One can do good to others only if one does good to the wife. He who quarrels with his wife and scolds her for every petty thing and beats her up, can certainly do no good to others. At times it so happens that a person is annoyed with his wife and beats her and as a result of that she gets hurt at some delicate part of her body and she passes away. It is to avoid this kind of things that God says: Aashiroo hunna bil ma’roof 

Of course if she does something very undesirable, she may be given a warning. 

It is the duty of the man to tell the woman (the wife) that he will not like anything that is contrary to the religious commands, but at the same time he should also tell her that he is not so harsh and hardhearted that he should not overlook any of her shortcomings”. 

(Malfoozat Vol. II, pp. 147)

Be proud of your wife and treat her kindly.

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