How can you say if your partner is having an affair? If your spouse is having an affair, you may notice a change in his or her behaviour.
What was once natural behavior in your partner would be replaced by habits you aren’t used to seeing.
While not all changes in behavior mean that your spouse is cheating, it is important to pay attention and, if you are suspicious, dig deeper into why your spouse is acting differently.
Here are five of them.
Your partner becomes self-conscious about his or her appearance. He or she would be more concerned about how their hair looks. There may be shopping for fresh, more fashionable clothes or dressing to appear younger. Your partner would be more conscientious about personal hygiene. He or she may also be wearing cologne that isn’t typical of him.
If your partner becomes as self-conscious about their appearance as they were when you first met,
- Your spouse joins a gym. Has your spouse always been a bit overweight? Is he/she now suddenly concerned with dropping the weight and shaping up? If your spouse has never shown any concern for weight problems before or their physical appearance, this new concern should be a red flag for you. More than likely he/she is attempting to become more attractive to someone else.
- There are changes in sexual behavior. This issue can be two-fold. If your spouse is cheating and learning new sexual tricks he/she may want to try them out in bed with you. Or, if they are cheating they may have no interest in sex with you.
If your spouse has introduced new sexual tricks into your intimate relationship it is only normal for you to wonder where he/she learned those tricks. If your spouse shows no interest in intimacy with you, it is also normal to wonder if he/she is getting sex somewhere else.
In some cases where a physical affair has turned into a love affair, the cheater may refuse sex with their spouse out of feelings of guilt and not wanting to “cheat” on their affair partners.
- Has your spouse become short-tempered? He/she may be less tolerant and short-tempered with family members. He/she may snap at things that never bothered them before.
A cheating spouse will start arguments over small issues to create a distance from their partner. Creating emotional distance between the cheater and spouse helps relieve any quilt the cheater may feel. It also helps justify the cheating by giving the cheater further justification for cheating on such an unreasonable spouse.
They will also start an argument as an excuse to leave the house. What better excuse to get away and spend time with the other man/other woman than an argument?
- Friends of your spouse are behaving oddly. Not only will the cheater’s behavior change but so will that of any friends who know and are covering for him/her. Pay close attention to how his/her friends are behaving around you.
Knowing what to look for and bringing an end to the affair quickly will play a huge role in whether or not you marriage survives an affair. Knowing what to look for and gathering evidence quickly will also help you if you should file for a divorce.