Love is the hardest language of all. The union of two doesn’t always last forever, in fact, in most cases, it doesn’t. 40% of marriage in the US end in divorce. What you’re experiencing is not out of the ordinary and you shouldn’t blame it all on yourself.
Lately, you feel the passion is gone. Your husband seems to be normal but you don’t feel the love from him, or even tensions at times. Think he hates you or you’re going crazy? Read on to find out more!
1. He is constantly fighting with you
Couples fight. Your relationship isn’t going south because you fight with your husband. But if he is deliberately picking fights with you, that’s a sign that something’s not right. He starts picking fights over the tiniest things and blows it out of proportion to blame you on something bigger.
He blames you for leaving dishes in the sick and links it to you being unorganized as a person, or when you forget to pick up coffee for him on the way home and he tells you you don’t care for him. Clearly, something big is the underlying issue if someone constantly blames you over something small.
2. He doesn’t want to spend time with you
All the weekend dates canceled, he’d rather play Animal Crossing than to watch a movie with you. All the excuses don’t seem legit. He no longer shows any interest in spending time with you, and he tries to spend as little time with you as possible.
Not wanting to see your face is a huge warning. He is so repulsed by you that he would rather stare at the wall than to see you and fight with you.
3. He doesn’t show any physical affection
Going straight to the dining room when he comes home from work without a kiss or a greeting, refusing to hug you before bed, not holding your hands in public…Physical affection is essential in a marriage. Refusing to show you physical affection means your husband is sick of you somehow and it makes him sick to even hold your hands.
4. He gives you emotional heartbreaks
Words can hurt more than a punch. He would say things to you telling you how you’ve ruined his life or his career, things that make you feel bad about yourself as a person.
Personal attacks are not a way to fix a relationship. He is only taking out his hatred on you. This is a form of emotional abuse. If he does that, most likely he hates you and doesn’t care what you feel.
5. He shows no respect for you in front of people you know
Leaving the table when you’re dining with friends and family, publicly scolding you…There’s no excuse for disrespecting you in public. Any fights can wait until you two are alone. His erratic behavior is a sign of him done with you. His action says it all.
6. He puts no effort in your marriage
He doesn’t remember your anniversary and important dates, even if he does, he makes no effort in celebrating it with you. When you bring it up, he simply brushes it off like it’s no big deal. It hurts a great deal that your loved one doesn’t care about an essential date.
It’s not about caring for a date on the calendar but about how much he cares for you. Not showing up for your anniversary dinner shows how little you mean to him.
7. He avoids communication
He doesn’t want to pick a fight with you but he knows he won’t be able to resist if he talks to you so he shuts all communication. Even if you try talking to him, he will find a way to quickly end the conversation and goes on his way.
8. He doesn’t miss you
After years of marriage, it’s normal to get used to each other, but it’s not normal to not miss each other at all. Does he text you once he has time at work? Or he doesn’t even inform you when he is going for after-work with his mates?
Thinking about you is a sign of affection. He would still want to message you and talk to you even he is away for merely a few hours. Not hearing from him once he leaves home means you are no longer on his mind and something is amiss.
9. He doesn’t try to be there for you
You have a family even or high school gatherings and your husband refuses to attend with you, not for a good reason, most likely he is just tired or doesn’t like someone there, etc. These excuses prove he is not trying to be there for you. Either he doesn’t care enough or he doesn’t want to be involved in your life.
10. He is happier with other people
Not that he is cheating, but you see his smile so much brighter and genuine when he is around other people. He is more chatty and attentive, things he doesn’t show to you anymore. There’s no reason for that other than he doesn’t like you anymore, or even is disgusted by you.
11. He shares with others his troubles with you
Complaining to others about your bad habits and annoying traits. This is not a healthy relationship. It’s okay for him to share with his friends what’s bothering him, but taking everything to friends and whining about life with you is utter disrespect.
There’s a line in every marriage no partner should cross, and that’s taking your hate for your partner publicly all the time. If you can’t respect your partner in public, it’s not a relationship you should be in and it’s evident how you truly feel about her.