WHEN IT IS ALWAYS ONE SIDE INITIATING A CONVERSATION.
You are in a relationship and you are always the one to start a phone call, start a chat, seek to meet then there is a gap
When you are always the only communicating, it is a sign that the other party is not really interested in hearing from you – which means he or she is not that into you
Relationship grows with a determined effort of each party to be with and speak with the other.
Such a one way communication channel means that th relationship is suffering from Under Communication
If you don’t call, your partner never calls. If you don’t start a chat, your partner never starts a chat. If you don’t call for a meet up, your partner never bothers about that. This type of relationship where a partner only responds but never initiate communication is suffering from *Communication Kwashiorkor*
When communication does not touch on critical issues
There are some partners who spend a lot of time talking alright, but they never talk about the real deal… This is also under Communication
We must understand that we use communication to erect the building blocks of a relationship leading to marriage
So optimal communication will ensure that all the necessary issues that needs to be addressed are addressed, while under Communication will continually skip the salient matters
In under Communication, you see the partners talk a lot about other people, movies, outings, fun and other peripheral matters
Meanwhile courtship communication must focus on building compatibility between the two of you, solving problems, letting you know each other well, planning for marriage, spiritual, financial and moral bonding, establishing maturity and character, shared interests and other important matters
Those who spend a lot of time under such courtship usually end up in marriage and soon begin to feel like they are married to a total stranger
It is because they under communicated by focusing on trivial things instead of necessities.
Of course, you can have conversations about trivial issues to laugh, enjoy and while away time, but when majority of your relationship’s communication is focused on such lower level stuff, then it suffering from under communication