Untying The Knot

Marriage can be compared to a marathon race. If you don’t dedicate or commit yourself to running the distance, your chances of dropping out along the way increases, and this is what we called DIVORCE. God’s definition of marriage that sets it apart from all other relationship, is that a man and a woman become one flesh ( Genesis 2:24 ). God intended marriage to be the most intimate of human relationship. People sometimes describe marriage as a covenant, a contract and sometimes as a partnership. Nevertheless, there’s an aorta of truth in all of these descriptions. Yet the actual truth is the reality that you’re “one”. You can’t get any closer to another person than being one.

TOP 3 UNSCRIPTURAL CAUSES OF DIVORCE Statistics shows that 4080 divorce cases were recorded in Accra alone over the last 8 years. Marriage is of a divine root or origin but there are many cases that are causing many people to divorce or break up from their marriages. We are living in an era of disposable; disposable plates, disposable diapers, and even disposable marriages. Now, even in the church today, we’re suffering from Quick marriages snappy divorce. When it comes to development, Ghana has adopted both the negative and positive aspect of westernization. The saddest thing is the fact that the divorce rate in Ghana is fast catching up with that of the western nations. Hmmmmm very very sad. Now let’s look at the factors

1. POOR COMMUNICATION- The point at which you do not communicate with your better half on anything is the starting point in the decay journey of your marriage. Many marriages have been killed by lack of communication.

2. SEX – Bedroom issues are key to divorce in recent times. Narrowly on sex, and the lack thereof is a main cause of divorce. Great day starts with a great Sex and vice versa. Most marital problems starts from the bedroom.

3. FINANCE/ MONEY – Money-related issues are frequently cited as a reason for divorce. Unexpected major expenses, mismatched financial priorities and above all not been transparent in finances to your spouse. It’s important to talk about your financial situation before getting married, but a few couple actually take time to really understand each other’s views on spending and saving. Unfortunately, this can cause frivolous fights between couple who have completely opposite views towards money.

However, very unfortunate, these minor minor issues and unbiblical reasons also cause divorce: I’m not happy, he/she is not the person I married, my partner is not a believer, my partner has changed,my partner is not satisfying me, etc..

BIBLICAL GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE

Many people sometimes use the reference of Malachi 2: 16 to justify their inclusion that God hates divorce and for that any believer or any one who is been trapped by the issues of divorce will certainly not be saved or go to hell…. certainly No. God hates divorce because it always involves unfaithfulness to the solemn covenant of marriage that the two partners have entered into before Him. Although the Bible stresses the importance and permanence of marriage, it also permits divorce but only in two specific circumstances that’s in Mathew 5:32, 19:9 and 1 Corinthians 7:12-16. The Bible does not command divorce. Rather it permits, regulate and even limits divorce and it only allows Divorce in two specific circumstances spelt above because of the hardness of human heart.

1. The only New testament grounds for DIVORCE are sexual sin by an unbeliever. The first is found in Jesus’s usage of the Greek word Porneia in Mathew 5:32 & 19:9. This is a general term that comprises sexual sin such as homosexuality, adultery, bestiality and incest. When one partner violates the unity and intimacy of a marriage by sexual sin or immorality and forsake his or her covenant obligation, the faithful partner is placed in an extremely difficult situation. After all means are exhausted to bring the sinning partner to repentance, the Bible permits release for the faithful partner through Divorce

2. The second reason for permitting a divorce is in cases where an unbelieving mate does not desire to live with his or her believing spouse again (1 Corinthians 7:12-16). Because God has called us to peace, Divorce is allowed and may be preferable in such situations. When an unbelieving desires to leave, trying to keep him or her in the marriage may only create greater tension and conflict. These are the only two biblical reasons for divorce.

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