WHY DO PEOPLE LIE AND WHY THEY ARE BENEFICIAL TO BEHAVIORAL DEVELOPMENT

Lies for their own worth are natural responses and in a way a defense mechanism as Erik Erikson would put it. Did you know that people need not be taught how to lie?
Personally, I believe lying is a good thing. Why you might ask and I’d say because it means that the one lying has already understood that there is something at fault.
It’s a means by which an individual, male or female, would try to pull themselves out of tight situations in hope of escaping a damaging conclusion. Such conclusions may be menial ranging from not wanting to be of lower societal worth to severe consequences of being sacked from an individual’s occupation or putting someone’s life or resource at risk. While there may be “white lies” out there meant to support emotionally unstable people or try to convince people of something beneficial to themselves, these all live much to be considered. For a majority of the time, people lie to avoid responsibility, to prevent a damaging of their social image and to create false social images of self-competence, self-wealth or self-dignity.


When people lie to avoid responsibility, it means that they already know that they are at fault. Well, this might not necessarily be good because while it will let one know the shame of losing self-respect, self-esteem and self-integrity mostly because the one doing the lying has already come to the realization that he/she was at fault and that he/she shouldn’t have done whatever he/she did and again he/she has realized that there was a better way to go about things, this is good and it will become a point reference to the person when he/she is again engaged in a situation where a lie could be eminent. Yes, but while the realization of this is good, it also gives the person a reason to not want to face the fault because he/she has gotten an alternative to run to whenever things go south. That may be the reason why most persons seem to lie a lot but yet it would mean he/she understands himself a lot and again it would mean he/she has given up on himself by the same measure.


When people lie about their accomplishments, fame, history, environment and others to garner respect, fame, friends, social value and others, it may mean that he/she is full aware of how pathetic he/she is, or how he/she hates where he/she stands in society or how lacking he/she is of desired qualities. If I were to comment, this is a good thing because it’s like any other linked to the path of behavioral rehabilitation. Having identified where someone is at a moment and where someone wants to be at are the main steps in knowing what it is that someone should be doing. Knowing you are pathetic and lying to deceive others may mean you already know what you want, well that’s all one needs to get there and that is the “realization” or “identification” of the problem, on this note one just need act on that feeling of self-dislike and do what is needed to extinguish this feeling after a saying goes that while “rivalry is because of discontempt, it yields effort that would be inexistent without it”. Having such a feeling backing your lies would lead to a lot of self-contemplation that mostly has as its result the person wanting to experience a change.
Well after saying this and all, lying is a double-edged sword and while it presents people with an opening for self-change, it also presents them with an alternative to further plunder deeper into lying and ultimately destroying whatever self-respect there was before and as we all know once a liar is caught it becomes difficult to trust such a person again hence also damaging ones societal image which too may lead to rehabilitation.
In short, lies may also be instrumental to behavioral growth.

If you have any interesting ideas concerning the topic of “lies” feel free to give your feedback it would be a pleasure to read them.
Hope this was helpful.
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