“To me, women are just disposable tools; objects that exist exclusively for amusement and satisfaction, and nothing more. Chasing after a woman is a total waste of time and resources, and I don’t have either to spare.”, a dear classmate of mine answered when we asked him about his love life after suggesting to him that we had never observed him having a close relationship with any girl.
Obviously, his response was not received well by our peers as many expressed their distaste after hearing what he said.
A few even asked him if that’s how he felt about his mother and sisters.
Much like our peers, I didn’t agree with what he said either, but I did not express how I felt. Later that day, I took some time off to think long and hard about what he had said, and I realized that there was some truth to it.
Don’t misunderstand me, I am no misogynist, neither do I think women are any less than men or are below them, but the truth is that a lot of women in our world today behave in such a way that necessitates such thinking.
Let me give you a quick instance:
As a guy, it has always been tough(honestly, impossible 99.8% of the time) to make any female friends.
I do not know if it’s because they’re programmed to see all males as good-for-nothing predators who are up to no good or if they are naturally as resistant as a fast-mutating viral strain, but I get turned down almost every time I propose friendship to a lady(I don’t think it’s because of my looks though, cause I’m not that bad… Or am I?😂) And even when I do get past that hurdle, all the next stages are boss-levels as I’m the one who has to strike up a conversation every time and also keep checking up on her, and that really sucks for someone like me, who finds it difficult talking to people(You could say I’m introverted).
Basically, I have to do everything. It’s like I’m pre-required to have a lot to offer, and if I give anything less, it’s GAME OVER for me.
Now, if I want to get her attention and inch closer to her, I’d have to take her out and treat her to a good lunch, right? Not just once, and not twice, but as many times as needed.
I don’t think I have to keep going, cause I’m sure by now, you see my point.
Males, females, we’re all humans. So why do I have to be the one to pay that price for friendship, companionship and love? Does it mean that if I’m not rich, I can’t make any female friends or I can’t ever have a girlfriend? That’s pretty tough, don’t you think?
As much as we’d like to escape it, the reality is that we’re human. Our designs are flawed. Selfishness is part of us, and no one likes to be cheated. The thing is, after spending all that time, money and other resources to get closer to the girl, the guy is definitely gonna want value for his resources spent. He would undoubtedly want something from the girl in order to feel satisfied and know that he has not wasted his resources.
Through no fault of his, his psyche starts to objectify the girl and brand her as a prize; a bounty to be claimed to pay off the accumulated debts incurred over the whole period.
The thing is, this is perfectly normal because that is what makes us human.
This is what is misconstrued by the other gender and makes them assume things like all men are predators who are chasing after girls only for sex.
I know many will not agree with this post, and that is also normal. Please leave your thoughts in the comments section so we can interact.
Also, I am well aware that not all girls are like this.
But I would emphatically state that majority of the other gender fall under this category.
There’s a lot more to say, but I’ll save that for another time. I’m sure you understand now why men see women as objects. I hope this reaches you well and gets you thinking about things. ASÉ!
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